4 Reasons Quality Friends Are Better Than The Quantity of Friends

Quality over quantity.

This is something that hits very close to home to me. Over the past six or so years, I've had a lot of ups and downs regarding friendships. It was hard for me to understand the concept of having a few really good friends, rather than a ton of friends. 

To me, the more friends you had, the more you were liked.  I understand now that this could not be more wrong, but we live and learn. On the surface, it can feel like having a million friends is the way to go. We all love the idea of being popular, but more realistically, we love the idea of being loved.

You would think that having the most friends would be comforting and maybe it is on a superficial level but when times get tough, how many of those friends will really be there? 

Probably only a few, which is how it should be.  

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1. They Genuinely Care

It's pretty much impossible to have more than a handful of best friends, you only have enough time to dedicate to so many relationships. What's great about the relationships you do have is that they're solid. These people genuinely care about you and are around you because you make them happy, support them, and vice versa. 

These are the friends who will be there for you at anytime and anywhere. They have your back, just like you have theirs. If you had twenty or thirty friends, but not best friends, the relationship would be drastically different.

When you have that many friends, it's impossible to get very close to all of them, so this keeps you at a distance. In a hard situation you may find that these people provide less support. 

2. There's Not Enough Time 

There's just not enough time to have thirty best friends, let alone fifteen. Think about how hard it is just to find time to meet up with a few of your friends, how would you manage with even more? You couldn't. 

That's why it's easier and more efficient just to have a few close ones. If you have a handful of people in your life, you can dedicate a decent amount of time to each and this guarantees a stronger relationship. 

Comparably, if you have twenty or thirty people that you're trying to keep in contact with, the relationships are going to be much weaker.

3. Distance Won't Affect You

I think one of my favorite things about having a few best friends is that distance just doesn't matter. Obviously it makes it a bit more difficult to see each other but it also means that when you do, things are exactly the same. You somehow can just pick up right where you left off and you never have to worry about it being awkward or running out of things to talk about. 

You and this person created a strong connection when you were constantly in each other's lives, so even though you're farther away, the bond is still strong. Think about if you tried to do this with fifteen different people...it would not work. The relationships were there but they weren't rock solid, so meeting up after a while can just feel a bit weird.

4.  It Keeps Things Simple

Life is busy and often, stressful. Having a few quality friends can help ease the stress in our lives. 

Having a few loyal, supportive friends helps bring peace of mind. You never have to worry about petty drama or if you will have someone to drive you to the airport at 4 am, it’s just guaranteed. 

At the end of the day, it’s one less thing to worry about and very comforting to know you have great people by your side. 

Quality friends bring the gift of simplicity. They will always love and be there for you just like you will always love and be there for them. 

It’s that easy.