Why You Shouldn't Settle For Less Than You Deserve

Relationships are awesome, that is, until they must come to an end. Not every person you date is going to be that special someone, and it's a reality we must accept. In the dating world, we try different people on and see if they're a good fit. Sometimes the fit just isn't quite right, but you never know unless you try.

Often times, people can get stuck in a rut. They believe that because they have already invested so much time and energy into a relationship, that it's not worth dealing with a break up, even if a break up is what you are in dire need of.

You should be investing your compassion into someone equally deserving of it, not clinging to a dynamic that has not and will not improve.

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Whether you two have been together for 6 months or 6 years, a break up is a break up and it's never a good time. Ending a relationship is both hard and stressful. You have constant doubts about whether or not you're making the right decision. You wonder if you'll regret this, if you'll be worse off without them, or fearful of being alone.

Being in a relationship usually guarantees comfort and consistency; two things which we love. This is why the idea of actually ending the relationship can be so terrifying for us. Even if you know that you do not belong with this person, you may be tempted to keep them around out of fear of being uncomfortable.

When it comes to ending a relationship or the relationship has just run it's natural course, you must have a very open, and honest conversation with yourself before taking any kind of action. Ending a relationship, or thinking about doing so, means focusing on what you want and need.

Maybe you don't like sleeping alone at night, you love always have someone to hang out with and there's never a tough time that you have to struggle with alone. You know that ending your relationships means starting back at square one in the dating scene, and taking on life's challenges by yourself; this is scary when you've become accustomed to a routine.

No one likes change, especially within their dating life. But you have to have that honest conversation with yourself that you may have been avoiding. Are you happy, in-love, communicating well and seeing the best side of yourself come to life? If yes, then maybe you don't want to end things just yet and perhaps are just feeling a bit overwhelmed.

However, if you are feeling like you're in this relationship for comfort rather than love, it may be time to re-evaluate your emotions. Are you with this person because you're afraid of being lonely? Are you scared to venture out in the world alone? If you're keeping a relationship alive for fear or tackling life solo, this is not a relationship. If you feel the need to be completely dependent on another person to not feel alone, you may actually be in need of your own alone time.

If you can't handle being alone when you're by yourself, this is not going to vanish just because you're in a relationship. Feelings of loneliness are more involved and cannot be solved by just being with another person. You have to learn to feel comfortable with yourself, or no matter the relationship, you'll always have lingering feelings of this fear.

There is a huge difference between being in a relationship and staying in one. You should not stay in a relationship because it provides stability or comfort. Staying is the equivalent of settling and selling oneself short. You should never feel like you need to stay, you should want to be there.

You should be in a relationship because you two bring out the best in each other. Being in the relationship means equal love, communication, happiness and so on. You want to be in a relationship when all your needs and desires are being met.

As painful as break ups are, you are doing yourself more of a disservice delaying it. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. You're also not being fair to the other person in the dynamic. You should not be keeping someone around if you're not willing or able to give them your whole heart. You will be okay when it's over and so will they. Give yourself and your partner the freedom to move on and find a better fit.