5 Reasons To Be Picky About Who You Let Into Your Life

There comes a point in all of our lives where we realize that we have to be selective about who we choose to surround ourselves with. 

Whether this realization occurred early on for you, or you’re just feeling it now, you understand now that your time is incredibly valuable. You no longer want to waste energy and precious time with people who don’t make you feel like the best version of yourself. 

It may seem a bit harsh to say you should be selective or picky about your social group, but it’s really not. You absolutely deserve to be surrounded by the best of the best and there’s no shame in that. 

1. You Save Time 

   
   

Creating connections with a solid foundation takes time, so why waste it on people who aren’t going to fulfill your needs? At this point in your life, you’ve probably become a master at spotting out who is genuine, and who will probably give you a headache. 

By being more selective, you can save yourself a great deal of time. I can easily remember having “talks” or getting lunches with people, to “sort things out,” and looking back, this was a total waste of time. 

Of course there are going to be spats and little arguments in a friendship, but overall, it should just work. You shouldn’t have to sit down or talk about a new problem every other week. Save yourself the time and 

2. You Have A Guaranteed Support Group 

When you weed out the people who are causing drama and unnecessary problems, you’re guaranteed to be left surrounded by people who absolutely love you. Friendship is obviously more than just being comforted by it’s a great feeling knowing that if anything ever happened or if you just needed to vent, you always have a safe place to go. 

3. You Don’t Need The Hassle 

There are much more important things that you have to deal with now and the last thing you need to worry about is if someone is upset, talking about you, or just creating issues where there are none. 

Between work, dating and social calendars, the last thing you need is someone adding negativity to your plate. You're busy enough, and if you were going to get busier, it should only be for something beneficial. 

You don’t need the hassle. You know who your friends are and that's that. 

4. You’ll Almost Always Feel Comfortable 

Like I mentioned earlier, there are always going to be small road bumps in a friendship but aside from this, everything is pretty great. 

One of the worst feelings in the world is entering a room and feeling like you wish you were invisible or never came at all. Being involved in friendships that make you feel like this is a giant red flag. 

When you’re feeling anxious before hanging out with people or dreading going, these individuals probably aren’t easy to be around and are clearly causing you more harm than good. 

When you’re picky about friends you will always be left with the ones you love and cherish the most. This also means that you will feel comfortable and happy meeting up with any of them. 

5. You Feel Good 

I can’t even count the amount of restless nights I had thinking about issues with friends back in the day. There was a constant feeling of worry; was someone mad at me? What did I do to make them stop talking to me? How can I fix this? 

All of this was ridiculous, but it took some time to see. Now I understand that someone is either my friend or they’re not. That's simple. We shouldn’t have to constantly question if we’re in someone’s good graces or feel like we’re walking on eggshells. 

A friendship should not generate feelings of mental exhaustion, it should just be easy. Being selective about who you let into your life does not mean you’re judgmental, it just means you're careful about where you place your trust and there’s nothing wrong with that. 

When you’re surrounded by a few loyal friends, you feel good. You’re more upbeat and confident. 

Life’s too short for petty problems, surround yourself with those who make you feel the most loved.