What To Do After Calling It Quits

No matter the reason or circumstance, break ups are the absolute worst and unfortunately, an ugly reality we all may eventually face. When that day does come for you, it's not going to be pretty but it's also not going to last forever. 

Whether you were the one who decided to call it quits or were the one being broken up with, it always hurts. It's usually impossible to walk away from any serious relationship and feel awesome. You've spent the past few years with this person and created so many amazing memories; you two know each other inside out and are probably best friends.

 It will always hurt to lose a best friend, and this makes the break up even harder. Not only are you walking away from a romantic relationship, you're also forced to leave a friendship behind.

Perhaps in your case, the term heartbreak may be over-dramatic or maybe it suits. Regardless, if you have just come out of a relationship, you may find yourself feeling a bit insecure, doubtful and questioning if love ever really lasts.

In these types of scenarios, I've found a few things to be really helpful in getting through the hard parts. The death of a relationship can truly be both emotionally strenuous and exhausting. Here are a few things that have helped me move on from the rough patches:

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Limit Your Social Media Use

This may sound a bit silly, but we all know that social media practically dominates our lives at this point. We have used social media as a way to connect and receive updates, but this is the last thing you want when you just ended a relationship. FOMO is already bad enough, you don't want to add fuel to the fire. 

It is incredibly anxiety-producing to see updates from your ex and see them with members of the opposite sex or partying - it ends up making you feel even more upset. I'm not saying you should throw away your laptop or phone, but you may want to consider hiding their posts from your newsfeed or even temporarily unfollowing them. 

Your heart needs time to cope and heal, and you just can't do that when your ex's life is constantly streaming in your face. Do yourself a favor, and give yourself some time to mentally detox from them.

Do Not Start Dating Until You’re Actually Ready 

I know people say you should jump back into the dating game in order to forget about the other person, but I'd be careful about this. If you're coming out of something fairly casual then sure, maybe it's totally a great thing for you to get back out there. However, if you're coming out of a very serious relationship, starting to date immediately after can actually cause you to feel even worse. 

How can you go out on a date and enjoy yourself, when your emotional wounds are so fresh? You need time to get over what's happened, and to let your feelings for your old flame dissipate before you can have a successful date. 

Also, dating people right after a break up can end up making us feel worse. It serves as a reminder of your past relationship and can make you miss this person even more. Basically, I think you need to get over someone completely before you can be happy in the company of someone new.

Keep Yourself Busy

As much as you may want to curl into a ball and never leave the comfort of your bed, you have to. You have to get yourself up and out even if you want to do the exact opposite. I know how hard it is to motivate yourself to do anything when your heart is hurting, but the busier you are the more you can distract yourself from your feelings. 

Even if it's just going for a walk, hitting the gym or getting a coffee, you need to do it to bring yourself some sense of normalcy.

Keep Yourself In Good Company 

Right now is when you need your best friends and loved ones the most, so don't hesitate to reach out to them. These are people who love you so much, and hate to see you hurting. They will be there for you in a heart-beat and also, they can remind you of all the great things still present in your life and help you look forward to the future. 

Surround yourself with good company because it makes things hurt just a little bit less.